February 2013 - “Fail” your way to Peace in the Puzzle
by Susan Myhre Hayes on 02/02/13
“Fail” your way to
Peace in the Puzzle
I recently attended a conference and in one session, the
group was asked to explain what “failure” is.
People had trouble answering in part because it seemed clear. Failure is
missing the mark, not making your goal. It
is a bad thing.
Try to explain it yourself, and if your definition is along
the along the lines of screwing up,
it probably doesn’t fit a Silicon Valley entrepreneur’s idea of failure. To them, failure is an opportunity to learn from
a mistake. Failure rules out a path thus
focusing them on another – and perhaps more fruitful – path. It is a good thing when viewed in this light.
Little bets are risks you can afford to lose. It is also the title of Peter Sims’ book, Little Bets: How Breakthrough Ideas Emerge
from Small Discoveries. I had the
pleasure of talking to Peter recently, and he suggests that it is vital to take
small risks and course correct until you reach your “goal.” “Goal” is in quotation marks because he
believes – as do I – that in most things – entrepreneurship or becoming your
intended self- the “goal” only becomes clear as we continue to move towards it. Little bets are things you risk and can
afford to fail at as you discover your end goal. Little bets and course corrections lead to
your desired end point.
When I turned 59, I decided to get a tattoo on my 60th
birthday. I decided to find a symbol that meant something to me. I made a little bet that lead to my desire to
transform myself intentionally. I choose
a symbol that stands for self-transformation, and I got it on my 60th
birthday. While I had changed many
times in my life, I had never done so intentionally. My little bet to choose a meaningful tattoo
led me to the discovery of how much I admired people who have
self-transformed. The choice of tattoo
led me to I make three little bets that if I quit drinking, got my finances in
order and let go of expectations of others that I could make my big bet and
write my book. Peace in the Puzzle: Becoming Your Intended Self was published in
late 2011. And that larger bet helped me
discover my purpose – to help others find theirs. Little and increasingly bigger bets led to my
piece of the puzzle and my peace in the puzzle. My little bet - to get a tattoo - lead small
discoveries – changes I needed to make - that lead to the breakthrough ideas in
my book and transformed my life.
Peter Sims is right.
Breakthrough ideas can emerge from small discoveries. Breakthrough ideas that come from little
bets.
Last year, three people shared with me that after reading my
book, they quit their jobs. For each of
them, although the decision was a long time coming and the exercises in the
book helped them make small discoveries about next steps. All are on a path to something
different. I am confident each will find
their peace in the puzzle. Doing the exercises in the book was a little bet. Have
no doubt that quitting your job is a big
bet. So, if you are in a job that isn’t
helping you and perhaps impeding from becoming your intended self but you don’t
have a trust fund, what are some little bets
you might make? What can you afford to
do with a manageable amount of risk?
Here are some possible little bets that might lead to small
discoveries:
- The cooperative universe wants you to find your
place in the world and is supporting you as you find it.
o
Ask someone who has known you for a long time,
what you are good at. What is your gift?
o
Look back on your school and career path. Where you are being led? What opportunities
are being present to you?
- What part of the news are you drawn to each day?
Which magazines do you subscribe to or
pick up in the doctor’s waiting room?
o
If you are drawn to needs in the community, is
there is a nonprofit whose mission you are passionate about where you might
volunteer? And, if they say no, ask another.
o
If you read about tech starts up constantly, are
their tech people you could ask to do an informational interview with? And, if
they say no, ask another.
·
Most people love to share what they have learned
in their lives and are willing to do so when asked. Is there someone you see as being successful
that you could ask to mentor you into your next job. And, if they say no, ask another.
·
Peruse online class catalogs. Note which classes you are drawn to. Consider taking a course in an area you believe you could not
only excel but be excited about.
·
Go to www.peaceinthepuzzle.com,
choose an affirmation and start saying it – a lot.
What little bet are you willing to make to become the entrepreneur
of your own life? What little bet are you willing to make to become the artist
of your own life?
Take it now.