Peace in the Puzzle

Peace in the Puzzle

July - Don't feel like celebrating? You only need program your brain!

by Susan Myhre Hayes on 07/15/12

Don't feel like celebrating?  You only need  program your brain!

Feel like celebrating?  There have been times in my life that I didn't.  To have more to celebrate in your life, consider programing your brain.
Celebrations are a wonderful part of life as they mark important occasions, milestones and turning points.  But there is something to celebrate in each day.  If you having difficulty finding something to celebrate each day, try programing your brain with a positive affirmation about daily celebrations. Your thoughts can bring what you want into your life.  Just like a computer can be programed, you have the ability to program your brain when you choose and practice an affirmation.
An affirmation is a positive statement of truth.  By affirming a truth, we are lifted out of false thinking. Each of us can program or reprogram our own brain and create positive beliefs.  So, if you want more to celebrate in your life, find an affirmation to support your getting what you want.  By affirming beliefs you want to hold, you create the life you want.
You can consciously choose to say to yourself that there is much to celebrate in your life rather than listening to the often unconscious and self-defeating self-talk you might be practicing.  Try to catch yourself in self-defeating self-talk.  What do you think to yourself when you are driving to work and the sun is in your eyes.   Do you say to yourself, "Good grief I hate driving into the sun. This is awful!  Or do you say to yourself, "What a beautiful sunshiny day!"
Are you telling yourself there is something to celebrate or not?  You get to choose.
By choosing to improve your self-talk, you program your subconscious mind, so that over time, your thinking, conscious mind chooses to see the world as you want. By acting as if you already believe them, you program your brain to believe them.  All things become possible.
Affirmations are powerful and must be carefully chosen and only then frequently repeated to oneself. For an affirmation to be effective it needs to be in the present tense and have a positive message.   To put you in a celebratory frame of mind, it will help to use optimistic statements and to do so with regularity and conviction until you believe the statement at a deep level.  Find an affirmation that resonates with you and say it over the next month.  Here are some for you to consider:

  • It is easy for me to find a way or a reason to be joyful.
  • I celebrate today as the gift that it is.
  • I am enthusiastic about life.
  • I am jazzed with irrepressible joy

Every day and every way, there is more and more to celebrate in my life.
Program your brain to celebrate what you want in your life.  The more you celebrate your life, the more there will be to celebrate.
 

June - Growing means letting others grow, too

by Susan Myhre Hayes on 06/16/12

Growing means letting others grow, too


Feel like celebrating?  There have been times in my life that I didn't.  To have more to celebrate in your life, consider programing your brain.
Celebrations are a wonderful part of life as they mark important occasions, milestones and turning points.  But there is something to celebrate in each day.  If you having difficulty finding something to celebrate each day, try programing your brain with a positive affirmation about daily celebrations. Your thoughts can bring what you want into your life.  Just like a computer can be programed, you have the ability to program your brain when you choose and practice an affirmation.
An affirmation is a positive statement of truth.  By affirming a truth, we are lifted out of false thinking. Each of us can program or reprogram our own brain and create positive beliefs.  So, if you want more to celebrate in your life, find an affirmation to support your getting what you want.  By affirming beliefs you want to hold, you create the life you want.
You can consciously choose to say to yourself that there is much to celebrate in your life rather than listening to the often unconscious and self-defeating self-talk you might be practicing.  Try to catch yourself in self-defeating self-talk.  What do you think to yourself when you are driving to work and the sun is in your eyes.   Do you say to yourself, "Good grief I hate driving into the sun. This is awful!  Or do you say to yourself, "What a beautiful sunshiny day!"
Are you telling yourself there is something to celebrate or not?  You get to choose.
By choosing to improve your self-talk, you program your subconscious mind, so that over time, your thinking, conscious mind chooses to see the world as you want. By acting as if you already believe them, you program your brain to believe them.  All things become possible.
Affirmations are powerful and must be carefully chosen and only then frequently repeated to oneself. For an affirmation to be effective it needs to be in the present tense and have a positive message.   To put you in a celebratory frame of mind, it will help to use optimistic statements and to do so with regularity and conviction until you believe the statement at a deep level.  Find an affirmation that resonates with you and say it over the next month.  Here are some for you to consider:

  • It is easy for me to find a way or a reason to be joyful.
  • I celebrate today as the gift that it is.
  • I am enthusiastic about life.
  • I am jazzed with irrepressible joy


Every day and every way, there is more and more to celebrate in my life.
Program your brain to celebrate what you want in your life.  The more you celebrate your life, the more there will be to celebrate.

May 2012 - Intentional growth

by Susan Myhre Hayes on 05/21/12

Intentional growth

Each of us is growing all the time. Our hair grows about an inch a month. Our nails grow a little less than an inch a year. And, we all have heard that our skin completely regenerates every seven years although experts disagree about that.

But many of us yearn for a different kind of growth. Growth that will lead us to find the person we are meant to be. Growth  that will lead us to our one-of-a-kind purpose. Unlike hair growth, this requires us to be intentional. We need to change intentionally to achieve this kind of growth.

In my book, Peace in the Puzzle: Becoming Your Intended Self , I describe how I intentionally transformed and the tools I used to do so. Looking backward, I see there were four things I needed to make that happen:

  1. A strong desire to transform;
  2. A belief that people can transform;
  3. A belief that good turning point should never be wasted; and
  4. A willingness to let change happen.

Desire to transform:  How do you get a strong desire to transform?  Your sense of urgency may come from the acknowledgement that where you are and what you are aren’t right. Think of your life now, then take your age, add the number of years you have left until your average life expectancy.  Now, decide if you can live as you are for that number of years.  Do you now have a strong desire to transform?


Belief that we can transform:  Do you believe that people can transform?  I do. I think that people are capable of change, but they will only do things that are important to them.

This is why people who don’t know how to swim sometimes find their way to shore in an emergency. First they have to know they are drowning.  Next they need to want to get to shore. How do you come to believe this? Look for evidence that you have transformed in the past. What happened when you changed jobs, started college or moved to another city? Here is a good affirmation to try: I am grateful I can make the changes I want and need in my life.


Don’t waste turning points: Turning points are a tool to help you on your journey; they should never be wasted. Turning points can be large or small – a job change, a job loss, a break-up, an extraordinary travel experience, an inspirational speaker.  Choose a turning point in your life and say this affirmation this week:  This turning point will be the beginning of the changes I will make in my life.


Let it happen:  Then be willing to let change happen. You need commitment.  Not a wish nor a hope, but a commitment.  If you are truly committed, you say, “I will do whatever is necessary to grow intentionally this year,” rather than, “I want to grow and discover my purpose.”

 

Begin with small steps and watch them grow. An African saying asks how you eat an elephant.  The answer—one bite at a time.  What steps can you take today on your transformational journey?

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Susan Myhre Hayes
Susan is passionate aobut each of us becoming out best self no matter what our challenges.  
In her engaging and blog, Best Self, she continues the conversation about self-transformation and intentional change begun in her book.